i love that motorcycles exist. like i'm genuinely so glad that someone was like "what if bikes were as fast as cars and could turn you into roadkill if you hit a pothole"
what if there was a vehicle so dangerous you had to wear armor to drive it
ALT
Something about this is so genuine and funky. It feels so natural that if I heard the correct lyrics it wouldn't process as right in my brain. This man yelling about his green tea and watermelon sour patch kids fits so well with the live music playing in the background, the atmosphere, the whole situation. It's like some reverse slam poetry talking about how good life is and how the simple pleasures should be enjoyed. I'm in love with this tik tok.
old alt rock fans in the notes are like:
1) this slaps and actually sounds like a lot of the classics
2) if i went to a concert and they played this i wouldnt even question it. id be like FUCK yeah they were watermelon!!!
hey netizens! i'm not sure how many people are aware, but youtube's been slowly rolling out a new anti-adblock policy that can't be bypassed with the usual software like uBlock Origin and Pi-Hole out of the gate
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reblog to help keep the internet less annoying and to tell corporations that try shit like this to go fuck themselves <3
As a trans woman I can confirm that they indeed found an ancient forest inside a 630ft deep sinkhole in China
cis people can reblog this but keep it on subject, please
Happy pride month everyone always remember that the sinkhole has an ecosystem large enough to house not only insects but likely several species of small birds or mammals
best thing ive ever been commissioned for in my life, shadow wizard money gang fight stick art. the rings are set up so that buttons are like gems
Good news everyone! its been turned into the real thing, i hope my client tears it up at locals
I now disagree with that post that went something like "to make high schoolers laugh post pandemic you have to kill someone" because when I was clocking out of work today I overheard my coworkers, two high school boys, joking around. One said "hey bro...literally me when im making pizza..." He was in fact making a pizza, that's our job. They both laughed like beavis and butthead and repeated it a few times.
why were you targeted for bullying as a kid?
I was visibly disabled and/or separated out from other classes for a disability
disabled in a way that other kids picked up on even if they/I didn't know why
ate "different" food (cultural dishes, allergies, dietary restrictions, etc.)
cause I was poor
literally straightforward racism
does repeated sexual harassment or SA by peers count as bullying? (yes)
didn't or couldn't perform my assigned gender and/or straightness correctly
body size (height, weight, proportions etc.)
something else
multiple of these! (at once or at different times)
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Btw I was talking to Kiddo about social rules because we're both autistic and it doesn't come naturally to either of us but I have 25 years experience on them so I have some useful tips
And as proof of that: in that conversation I realised what neurotypicals mean when they say we "make everything about us"
When they're talking and we interject "fun facts" or start talking about something related to what they're saying we mean:
"I am showing interest in you and your interests by engaging with them and showing I'm listening by adding information"
From their perspective we are stomping over their turn to talk and making it our turn and therefore making it about us
Conversation example:
NT: my favourite animal is sharks
Autistic person: with some sharks species the shark pup that hatches first hunts the others and eats them while being incubated inside the mother
Autistic person perspective: I have shown interest in you by giving you information about a topic you have shown interest in
NT person's perspective: wow they made my favourite animal a time for them to show off instead of letting me talk when it was my turn
It's doesn't matter if it's "on topic" or "relevant to the person" if it's when it's their turn to be the focus of the conversation
Like I know there is a bit more to it but this is the first time in 39 years I have understood the accusation "you're making this all about yourself"
Btw what I'm getting from the notes is when autistic people talk we see that as giving information
We are sharing facts
We are expanding on a topic the other person has shown interest in order to include them i.e.: starting shark facts when the other person mentions they like sharks
That's how we show that we care, listen, and like someone in a conversation
And when we infodump we're showing you our favourite things. We're gifting you our joy!
So for us Talking often equals giving
But to the allistics we're not giving we're taking.
We're taking away their turn to talk and taking up their time and therefore excluding them
They give in conversations by asking questions and if they receive a question they show they care and listen by returning that question. You ask questions and then answer the question you're asked in return
But if I'm asked a lot of different questions I would feel kinda frustrated that the other person doesn't want to share or that they're keeping me at arms length and also feel upset that they don't want my cool facts and information I brought for them because they keep changing the subject.
Like my kid and I have conversations that are literally us monologuing at each other and its my favourite thing
But I can see why allistics get frustrated or offended now
Because neither way of holding a conversation is bad they're just very very incompatible
Something similar happens (and has similar intentions re: autistic communication) when we share an experience/anecdote related to the subject being discussed.
Rough example:
Person A(could be autistic or not): My cousin is dying of colon cancer
Me, an autistic person: Oh, man, that's awful, my aunt died of colon cancer
My intention when I say this: "I am conveying that I have been in a similar position/understand what you're going through, and I am sympathetic; I frequently don't know what the right thing to say is, so sometimes letting you know I've been there feels like the best demonstration of sympathy and solidarity I can offer beyond trite and/or possibly incorrect words"
How some people, usually allistics, will take it: "God, I can't even talk about a relative dying without them making it about themselves and what THEY'VE been through! I just want sympathy!"
Now, to be honest, USUALLY I don't get misunderstood when I do this - or, if I am misunderstood, I don't get called on it. Maybe that means it's a more effective way of expressing sympathy than I sometimes fear it is. Maybe I'm just paranoid (not unreasonably; when you're autistic you get used to being misunderstood in ways you never imagined you would be and getting exploded at out of nowhere) that people will misunderstand when they actually understand just fine. But I can definitely see how it COULD be read wrong.
That’s actually not even an autistic thing- I think internet discussion of this topic has accidentally flattened some critical nuance!
Allistics absolutely do use this sympathy technique. That's because what you're doing is 'trying to relate to that person's experience,' which is a relatively universal human communication strategy! But it's not just about the words you say, it's how you say them.
Autism tends to be defined by taking human behavior sliders and moving them to extremes. All eye contact or no eye contact, stone stillness or excessive movement, monotone or cartoony speech, talking too much or not enough. You might recognize every single one of these as behaviors that allistics associate with insincerity.
THAT'S where it gets us! To allistics, our words often don't matter, because our nonverbal cues make them sound fake.
Keeping this in mind can help with what OP was talking about, too!! You can lessen the likelihood of being perceived this way in the shark conversation by verbalizing acknowledgment and opinion
So, instead of
ALLISTIC: my favourite animal is sharks
AUTISTIC: with some sharks species the shark pup that hatches first hunts the others and eats them while being incubated inside the mother
you can do
ALLISTIC: my favourite animal is sharks
AUTISTIC: i love sharks too*! it's so interesting** that some sharks species the shark pup that hatches first hunts the others and eats them while being incubated inside the mother
*Acknowledgment. Leaving this out can make it sound like you're just reacting to a keyword. Including it communicates you are listening/responding to the full statement!
**Opinion. This is... hard to explain, but leaving this out can come across as lecturing. If you don't give the reason why you're stating a fact, the assumption is usually that you're trying to educate. That you think the other person didn't know this. It can make the other person feel condescended to- and that's not exclusive to allistics, either. You can REALLY piss off an autist by making us feel like you don't think we know what we're talking about!
Ah! That's helpful!
That's very similar to the "I don't know" issue I worked out with Kiddo the other day where we established that "I don't know" is accepted as an answer if you also give indicators that you were listening and if possible direction like:
Question: Did you feed the cat?
Possible answers:
- I don't know, maybe?
- I don't think so but I'm not sure
- I really can't remember if I did not to be honest
- I don't know, I'll go check
And body language of looking at the person (in general not necessarily eye contact) and taking not answering too fast also figure in. You gotta sit with it for a beat to show you're thinking about your answer and not just dismissing them
Which I get is legit annoying if that's not natural for you but it saves on arguments
(also on the flip side my husband is learning to better accept I don't know as an honest answer)
tumblr mutuals who i would walk around an antique store with and point out funny items and afterward get icecream with